It took me nearly a week to gather the mental strength to type this blog.
This past Monday was the three year anniversary of losing my love and friend. Monday was hard, too. I cried and screamed and wallowed. I placed blame and felt victimized because of my still unanswered questions. I slipped back into that dark unsure place and repeated the phrase I’d always tell Uzell, “God didn’t give me the gift of you just to take you away! We’ll get through this. You got this, and I got you!” Monday was hard.
I dreamed about him Monday morning. I dreamed his friends made all of the funeral arrangements, and it was a train wreck! Kip was in a casket and his boys were making such a big fuss about everything. It was so bad I remember some of us laughing throughout the service.
At some point, I ended up resting my head on his chest and I said, “I miss you so much.” Kip opened his eyes, they were beyond bloodshot, turned his head to the right and mouthed, “I miss you, too.” Then he turned his head back and closed his eyes. I looked at one of his best friends and asked, “Did you see that?” He just nodded his head.
That dream made me smile when I woke up, but it also made me ache throughout the day. Grief is ugly, unfair, and unending.