Brown Sugar’s Weight Loss

This is such a hot topic right now. There are so many people who are jumping on the fitness bandwagon! Health, nutrition, and exercise are so popular these days, it’s almost addicting! Or, maybe it’s just me… I have the apps on my phone, and I have an amazing trainer, and a decent food regime and oddly, I’m not seeing any results on the scale!!!! (insert hair pulling here) I have clothes that are fitting more loosely, and the scale had the audacity to tell ME that I had gained 3 pounds. WTHeck!!!!!

Here are my stats:

  • I’m 5’4
  • I currently weigh 157 pounds
  • My goal weight is 135 pounds
  • I’m secretly interested in bodybuilding
I need help!!!! I believe the problem deals with my eating habits. Nah, I know that’s the problem. What to do???



Brown Sugar’s Homes…

Brown Sugar's Homes...

I know, it’s been awhile, but I have so many thoughts and I now I have a little time to get my thoughts out!

I know I discussed parenting awhile back, but one thing that truly bothers me these days is the behavior between parents when they can’t function as a couple any longer. Love can be so blind that all we can see is fury over the well-being of our children. Now, please know that my comments are general. There are so many fatherless children, who don’t deserve to be abandoned by an immature man. I need more men to realize that children are living, breathing people.

My daughter has never met her biological father. They’ve talked on the phone, emailed, and mailed each other. When I asked her how she feels about him, this is what she said, “I think he loves me, and he thinks I’m special, and he makes me feel like I’m not alone.” These are the words of a child about a man she has never met. Parents PLEASE stop making children fight your battle. You can be angry, but they don’t have to be. Why is it that women use children as a pawn in a game? I wish women would raise their children with some dignity, just like single mothers used to do long ago. We have so many excuses these days, about what we can’t do and what we have to go without. I don’t want to sound like a hypocrite, because I have been a single parent before. I embraced being a single parent and worked overtime to make sure my daughter knew she was loved. Yes, I’ll admit, there were hard times and long nights. There were times I cried, I was angry, I was tired, yet I pushed on. In the midst of those feelings, I never blamed my daughter’s father. I just did what I had to do.

According to the U.S. Census Bureau in November, 2009, there are approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.8 million children (approximately 26% of children under 21 in the U.S. today). This is such an unfortunate statistic, because children surely don’t get the opportunity to pick their parents. Parents, raise your children to become the type of citizens you wouldn’t mind living next door to you. Raise your daughters to be young ladies, because what she’s learning now is shaping her into who she will become. Raise your sons to be loving, caring gentlemen. Raise him to know what the statistics are so he knows what not to become.



Brown Sugar’s DREAMS

Brown Sugar's DREAMS

T. E. Lawrence once said, “All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act on their dreams with open eyes, to make them possible.”

It’s a scary thing, dreams. Especially when you have dreams that are so different from the people surrounding you. Sometimes I feel so stuck. My dreams are so different from those around me that sometimes, I feel that my dreams aren’t worth a second thought. I don’t want to look back with regret. I don’t want to set my dreams aside because I don’t have the support I need to move forward. Stepping out to pursue my dreams would be a huge leap. So huge that I may have to leave some people behind.

The problem with dreams is that often times we want to push our dreams onto the people we love, but we have to realize that those are OUR dreams. If I don’t develop my dreams, then I may fail my children. I want them to know that it’s ok to dream, and I definitely don’t want them to try to live out my dreams because I was too afraid to. Yikes!

I need clarity. I need confidence. I need reassurance. I need room to think and grow. Instead of moving forward in the right direction, I’m in autopilot in everyone else’s directions. Does anyone else know how I feel? Do you know what your dreams are?