Brown Sugar’s Homes…

Brown Sugar's Homes...

I know, it’s been awhile, but I have so many thoughts and I now I have a little time to get my thoughts out!

I know I discussed parenting awhile back, but one thing that truly bothers me these days is the behavior between parents when they can’t function as a couple any longer. Love can be so blind that all we can see is fury over the well-being of our children. Now, please know that my comments are general. There are so many fatherless children, who don’t deserve to be abandoned by an immature man. I need more men to realize that children are living, breathing people.

My daughter has never met her biological father. They’ve talked on the phone, emailed, and mailed each other. When I asked her how she feels about him, this is what she said, “I think he loves me, and he thinks I’m special, and he makes me feel like I’m not alone.” These are the words of a child about a man she has never met. Parents PLEASE stop making children fight your battle. You can be angry, but they don’t have to be. Why is it that women use children as a pawn in a game? I wish women would raise their children with some dignity, just like single mothers used to do long ago. We have so many excuses these days, about what we can’t do and what we have to go without. I don’t want to sound like a hypocrite, because I have been a single parent before. I embraced being a single parent and worked overtime to make sure my daughter knew she was loved. Yes, I’ll admit, there were hard times and long nights. There were times I cried, I was angry, I was tired, yet I pushed on. In the midst of those feelings, I never blamed my daughter’s father. I just did what I had to do.

According to the U.S. Census Bureau in November, 2009, there are approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.8 million children (approximately 26% of children under 21 in the U.S. today). This is such an unfortunate statistic, because children surely don’t get the opportunity to pick their parents. Parents, raise your children to become the type of citizens you wouldn’t mind living next door to you. Raise your daughters to be young ladies, because what she’s learning now is shaping her into who she will become. Raise your sons to be loving, caring gentlemen. Raise him to know what the statistics are so he knows what not to become.




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