My Crown’s Business

I consider myself to be somewhat Afrocentric. I love natural hair and India Arie! I’ve been wearing my hair natural for nearly two years, no chemicals at all. My goal was to get dreads, then I learned about sisterlocks and fell deeply in love with that look. So, I was ousting all chemical’s from my crown over time. These are a few of the afrocentric looks I’ve rocked:

I wore my twist dreads in an up-do on my wedding day and rocked an afro ponytail with braids when I met Wolverine! Well, I sold my dignity and got a perm. I know… I can hear your gasps and oh no’s from here. I was ready for a change and figured I couldn’t achieve that with dreadlocks or sisterlocks. I found an excellent stylist at a salon called C.O.D. (Cuties on Duties hahaha) and had him to apply the infamous HAIR CRACK!

I’m not a big hair person, so I was looking for cute short do’s when my stylist informed me that he would not be cutting all of my hair off. So there I was pouting under the dryer like a toddler. Boy was I satisfied with the results though!

In somebody’s business…

I’ve been trying to post this since 9/14. Didn’t quite know how to go about, so how about being straight forward. A couple of nights ago on the Tyra Banks Show, she discussed the Teen Pregnancy Issues that are plaguing our society. Which was ironic because this is what this post is about.

I often times collaborate with my cousins because we are all educators. Outside of trying to make sense of some of these “unique” names & spellings, we actually discuss many of the issues that our students face. I have a cousin, let’s call her Susan, who works in the school system as a specialist. Her job is to get her students prepared for college. She has to follow her children, and this required her to travel from the middle school to the high school this year. She has a fourteen-year-old female student, let’s call her Marsha, that she is particularly fond of, we [educator's] always have one or two. Susan is close to the family and allows Marsha to go along on family events with her! Often times we reach out to the kids we know need the attention. Marsha had written a letter for Susan and rather than give the letter to Susan she left it home-hidden not so discreetly. Marsha’s grandmother (who she lives with) found the letter and immediately called Susan. The grandmother asked Susan to be honest when she asked her if she knew that Marsha was pregnant and had not told her! How many lives do we know were shattered that day?

When confronted, Marsha broke down and admitted to being twenty-six weeks pregnant. She was too afraid and too ashamed to tell anyone, and I’m assuming thought the problem would simply go away. Marsha’s father, who is in jail for drug trafficking, told the grandmother where to find money to make the problem go away. He stated that when he got out of jail, he still wanted his little girl to be a little girl. (Those of us reading are already aware that it was too late for that right?) In order to “make this problem go away” dad had to pay $7000 and Grandmom, Marsha, & Susan had to travel to Kansas City.

I’m so torn as to how to feel about this situation. I don’t know if it’s because I just gave birth that it bothers me for a baby that could have survived (it is possible for a twenty-six week fetus to survive) to be aborted. I understand dads perspective too. I’m also aware that this fourteen year old BABY is experiencing some things that we definitely want to protect her from experiencing this early. I thought why not adoption? Because of how far along she was, she had to give birth anyway. The story about the procedure was so scary!

Tyra told her young guests that the reproductive system was a beautiful thing, but it wasn’t going anywhere and they has time to enjoy childhood before worrying about putting those organs to use! We’re faced with this on-going problem and I’m torn about how I would react if it were my daughter, niece, cousin, or sister. How would you?

Kingdom Business

Do you support & encourage your child no matter what? I was too tickled! All I have to say is Proverbs 22:6….

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